Stimulate His Fantasies by Telling Him Yours!
Are you missing the undivided attention your man used to pay you at the beginning of your courtship? Have you ever wondered how you could make him look at you like he looked at you on your first or second date, back before you became a familiar fixture in his life? It’s easy enough if you know the secret to keeping him guessing!
The one thing men never get tired of is novelty. Sitting in the middle of a strip club, essentially a sensual candy store, male customers typically spend the first hour or so having a cocktail, relaxing, and scanning the strippers on the shift for any favorites. After another hour and another cocktail or two, the man will have forgotten his favorites in favor of whoever has approached him and made him feel the way he was hoping to feel when he walked into the club.
Again, this is the easy part. As a stripper, I can tell you that we don’t have to do much in order to make our customers spend all of their money and come back time and again for the privilege of doing it all over again. It’s the same thing you did when you first met him, I bet. You listen as he talks with wide, interested eyes. You make him laugh. You invade his space a little so there’s no doubt in his mind that you are interested in something beyond friendship. You flatter him. Then you make it easy for him to take what he wants. All of this produces in him a deep, narcotic feeling of sexual power.
Now he is prepared to spend money to keep that feeling going as long as possible. First, he buys lap dances. Then, he may upgrade to a VIP room or Champagne Court, where the high price suggests far more naughtiness than is typically ever had. Once there, if he is kept stimulated, a stripper who knows what she’s doing will be able to keep him there all night by providing the kind of stimulation he wants. I’m not talking about what’s in his pants, because by this point, that’s either already been taken care of or the man knows it’s never going to be taken care of. I’m talking about his mind.
What I’m going to tell you now is a little secret that most women would never guess about men because women are wired to want the opposite from an intimate partner. This secret is something you can use whenever you want seduce your man over and over again, regardless of how long he’s known you or how much you have been through together. This secret involves you, that time when you were sixteen, and your cheerleader friend Kimmy. Or your boyfriend and his brother. Or your father’s friend. Or the cable guy. Whatever you want.
It doesn’t have to be in any way rooted in reality. In fact, it’s almost better if it isn’t, as you want him to retain the security of your relationship while simultaneously being titillated by your wanton creativity and the possibility that in his wildest dreams, it could be true. For the minutes you spend telling him all about it in sumptuous, sexy detail, he is watching it on a big screen in his head, complete with flattering lighting and a soundtrack of his choice. He gets to flip back and forth between watching you tell the story, and playing the story out in his head. Men don’t necessarily need complicated stimulation, but most of them do believe that more is better. By telling him sexy stories about yourself, you give him the permission and opportunity to fantasize about you even as you’re sitting right there.
Good fantasies take practice. If you want him to look at you the way he looked at you back when you first met, you need to tap into the part of his brain that appreciates novelty by putting it in his lap. Tell him your fantasies. Tell him his fantasies. It doesn’t matter what you tell him as long as it produces that exciting adrenaline rush of novelty.
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Hi, interesting blog.
I’m intrigued about you bringing insights learned as a stripper to dating advice.
For myself, I find that in order to have relationships be both secure and exciting, I need to find the place of security and excitement within myself.
Your tips for keeping things exciting feel like they would be good ways for a woman to keep the excitement, mystery, and fantasy alive within herself.
Cheers to that, I look forward to more of your writing.
- Erika Awakening
Certainly great advice to keep things interesting
can you pls right an article on how a woman (who is 30) can seduce a man (who is 50). ? would like to hear your thoughts on older men and what that sexual experience is like…thanks.