Master His Favorite Mind Games Without Letting Them Master You!

Wouldn’t you love to know without a shadow of a doubt that you could win any argument with your man, every single time? Imagine being one step ahead of him and using your knowledge to stop arguments before they even start. He’ll never know he’s been tricked if you do this right, and it’s so easy. Wouldn’t it be nice to stop fighting entirely and spend all of that extra time giggling under the covers together?

This is the secret that men don’t want you to know: they’re not as stupid as they want you to think they are.

Think back to the beginning of your relationship. I guarantee you that by the time you’d been out on a few dates with him, your man knew why you had come and what you wanted from them. Your intentions were heard loudly and clearly. If you met with any resistance from him at this stage, it was due to a fear that once he committed to a relationship with you, the fun would stop. So he hedged, and he hemmed, and he hawed, pretending not to know what was going on to buy himself more time.

Even if an initial commitment was not the problem, something else was. Maybe you wanted to go back to work. Maybe you wanted to stop working. Maybe you just wanted him to hang out with you in the kitchen while you made dinner. Whatever the issue was, I promise you that your man knew what you wanted and what was expected of him from the beginning. He pretended not to because many, many women fall for this. Avoid being one of those women, and your frustration levels will automatically fall.

Be the stakes the purchase of a $20 lap dance, a lifetime commitment, or simply extra help around the house, the “I don’t know what you’re talking about” game is the same. It is a dumb game, but the genius of it is that whoever initiates it will, one way or the other, win.

Say a guy you’re seeing doesn’t call when he said he would. He knows he is supposed to do it. He just didn’t. If you believe him when he tells you that he forgot, resign yourself to a long lifetime of having to see that really irritating sneaky face that men make when they think they’re pulling one over on you. But if you make a big deal out of such a small, petty concern, the man also wins something in his mind: he wins the right to mentally reduce the intimacy between you since you were a big meanie and didn’t give him what he wanted. So therefore his depriving you of the thing he knew you wanted (intimacy) is now YOUR fault. There are men who don’t play games and there are men who call when they say they will. These are just extremely few and far between.

Here’s the way to thwart this particular man-trick: read his mind. When you see his fear looming on the horizon, don’t give resistance. State your case. Smile sweetly when he hedges. Tell him that you understand. Then give him lots of time without you in which to think about it. Don’t give the appearance of doing this out of anger, or spite. Do it because you know he fully expects you to do the opposite and sink your hooks in at this time, because that’s what every other woman he’s known has done in the past.

You’re not every woman he’s ever known, and this is your chance to prove it. Don’t let your man get away with playing mind games in your relationship.

Beat him at it.

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