Don’t Talk Yourself Out of Your Hard-Earned Confidence!
You know those people, be they relative, co-worker, or friend, who make you feel like complete shit about yourself every single time you talk to them by way of those little cutting remarks, designed to “knock you off your high horse” or “bring you down a few pegs” or “put you in your place?”
They are assholes, and they are totally wrong about you.
As a stripper, one of the first lessons I learned was that I could not rely on other people for my confidence. Sure, there are nights at the club where men line up for lap dances, bring me flowers and gifts, and profess undying love to my every body party. But just as often, customers are rude and dismissive, jealous girls are catty, my thong feels tight, there’s a pimple on my butt, and the last thing I feel like doing is putting on a smile and acting like I’m a sex goddess. But I do it because, well, that’s what I do. The level of exposure to ignorant jerks in a strip club is unusually high. If I let everyone with a bad attitude rub off on me, I’d be broke! So I fake it until I make it. Sounds dumb, but I always end up making it, and I couldn’t do that by giving in to negativity and rolling around in it until the entire world is reduced to a pile of suck, myself included.
So what I’m saying is, don’t be an asshole to yourself. It is the only thing that will really stop you from going where you want to go and doing what you want to do. Also, people will pick up on the fact that you feel this way about yourself and follow suit, walking all over you. Your external circumstances depend entirely on your internal circumstances.
What’s the last mean thing you said to yourself? Was it that you were fat, or ugly, or didn’t have the right clothes, or that your laugh was too loud, or that there was nothing in the world that you were really good at?
Let me tell you something: tons of fat, ugly, stupid, poorly-dressed, mediocre people the wide world over are tenderly loved and enthusiastically fucked by their partners as a general state of being. You know I’m right! You can think of at least ten of these people off the top of your head, I bet. Probably many of your relatives, co-workers, and friends fall into this category. What this means is that anything done in the name of self-improvement on your part is necessarily for your own benefit because seriously, when it comes down to it, poor self esteem is far more repellent than the pimple on your ass you’ve been allowing to destroy it. But in a strange chicken-or-egg kind of paradox, one of the first things that will help to raise your self-esteem is to work on little superficial stuff that’s bugging you first before moving on to the big life’s-work Women Who Run With Wolves kinda stuff.
So before you move on to the next post, say something nice to yourself. Tell yourself how nice your legs are, or how pretty your smile is, or how you know more about Soviet-era geography than anyone else you know. Keep that thought in your head, and return to it whenever you start feeling down.
Saying something nice to yourself can also be partnered with the age old and always popular confidence tactic of buying something nice for yourself.
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